GUEST BLOG: Navigating the Ups and Downs of a Pandemic Divorce
Divorce is never easy. Unless the person you’re talking to has been through it themselves, it’s quite difficult to describe the challenges you face day in and day out. As if divorce itself isn’t hard enough, the pandemic brought about serious obstacles of its own, and for most of us, our everyday routines were turned upside down.
So you’re a divorced woman emerging from the pandemic. Where do you go from here? How do you set up a life for yourself that allows you to rebuild and thrive for years to come? While it’s not going to be easy, you can use some of the changes brought about by the pandemic to fuel your journey into a better life. Here is some practical information and advice:
Allowing Time to Grieve
First of all, you won’t be doing yourself any favors by neglecting your need to properly grieve your divorce. It’s one of the most stressful, sad, and isolating experiences an individual can go through. Be honest with yourself, process your thoughts and emotions, and allow yourself plenty of grace.
Some women who go through a divorce find that working with a professional counselor helps them to process their grief in a healthy way and determine the best steps for rebuilding their lives. In fact, there are many women who could benefit from counseling but never seek it. Take the opportunity to find a counselor near you who can help you navigate the challenges ahead — some offices will see you in person while others are still only offering teleconferences.
Staying Connected to Others
The pandemic has been hard on people's social lives. And when you’re recovering from divorce, the lack of socialization can be doubly harmful. Look for ways that you can stay connected to the most important people in your life. The emotional support from friends and loved ones can’t be replaced. So whether you can meet people in person or you must video chat with them, prioritize those relationships.
Working From Home
The workforce was severely impacted by the pandemic. Many people were laid off or furloughed, while others were forced to embrace the remote work lifestyle. This has presented challenges, it has also presented opportunities. Many companies will likely continue to use a distributed workforce because it benefits both employer and employee.
As you’re rebuilding your life, now could be the perfect time to embark on a new career. You could apply for jobs or start a business in a completely different industry that you’ve always been interested in. Or, you could sharpen your skills in the field in which you have experience. Consider pursuing an online degree in accounting, nursing, computer science, or any other field that can help you forge a fulfilling career.
Exercising From Home
Taking care of your overall health and well-being is critical, especially when you’ve recently been through a divorce. Amid the pandemic, many fitness centers and yoga studios began offering online classes, and there are countless exercise videos on YouTube that make it easy to work out from home with minimal equipment. Carve out space in your home and create an exercise routine that you can stick with.
Finally, nutrition is perhaps the single most important aspect of maintaining your health. Pay attention to your diet. You don’t need to go all-in on a fad diet, but your body and mind will benefit from eating less processed foods and more whole foods. Think vegetables, fruits, whole grains, lean meats, fatty fish, and nuts. These foods are an excellent basis for any diet.
There’s no getting around it: Being recently divorced and still navigating the challenges of a pandemic is a difficult spot to be in. Make sure you allow yourself to grieve and don’t isolate yourself from others. Consider how you can improve your career prospects, and take care of your health and well-being through exercise and diet. Following these tips will help you build a healthy foundation upon which to build the rest of your life upon.
About Tina Martin:
Tina Martin started her career in business administration but eventually decided to pursue something that actually inspired her: becoming a personal fitness instructor. She took another leap of faith and decided to start offering life coaching services. She also started ideaspired.com as a side project to reach as many people as possible, and encourage them to put their dreams first.